by bell hooks
Read by January LaVoy
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Content: It’s challenging to read, and very honest about emotional abuse. It’s in the Creative Non-fiction section of the bookstore.

I’ve had this on my radar for a long time, one I knew I “should” read. It just turned out that I had a little bit of a window, and it’s a short read. That said, it’s not an easy one.

The basic premise is that hooks believes that people, Americans especially, don’t know how to love. And this book is all the things that are keeping people from fully experiencing love. It’s a hard book, mostly because hooks is so black and white. Capitalism, patriarchy, sure, but also our tendency to tell little white lies, to not be fully honest, to place too much emphasis on romantic love. The nuclear family divides us – we should be living in community – and prevents us from experiencing all forms of love.

It’s also one that I kind of regret listening to it. While LaVoy was an excellent narrator, I needed to see the words, and – this is unusual for me – I wanted to mark up the book and make notes in the margins. I know I will need to reread this, in print form, sometime. I just think I need to sit with it for a little bit first.